Holistic Massage School Shares Characteristics of Healthy Self-Respect

Holistic Health Benefits of Self-Respect

“When you have healthy self-respect, it positively impacts your holistic (Mind, Body & Spiritual) health”, said Harmony Curtiss, Director for Healing Hands School of Holistic Health – Laguna Hills.  “When we respect ourselves we’re better able to handle stress and more resilient when facing setbacks. That means you’re less likely to experience anxiety, depression, muscular tension, illness and other negative side-effects associated with chronic stress” she continued. 

Modeling Healthy Self-Respect

For over 26 years, the Faculty at Healing Hands has modeled and encouraged healthy self-respect among students.  They do this by empowering students with knowledge and skills to affect positive change in their lives and careers. They are also eager to point out and acknowledge their student’s unique strengths and talents.  Their validation helps students overcome feelings of worthlessness, guilt or shame which negatively impact our emotions and physiology. Most importantly, health self-respect enables us to attract caring, honest relationships and avoid those that are abusive, manipulative and unhealthy. 

Respect Yourself

Respecting yourself is essential to maintaining a positive self-image.  Self-respect allows you to feel good about who you are right now, and excited about the person you are becoming. Below is a list of characteristics of healthy self-respect.  How many do you possess?

 

Characteristics of Healthy Self-Respect

  • You like and respect the person you are. You feel you’re a worthy individual, deserving of love and respect from others.
  • Healthy self-respect requires an awareness of your values and beliefs, and your personal ‘Right’ not to compromise them.
  • You realize that you can’t please everyone all the time and you have no obligation to do so. You respect your time, and manage it efficiently based on your own priorities.
  • You recognize that no-one’s feelings, difficulties or experiences are more important than your own. You have an ability to set boundaries and to enforce them. 
  • You take responsibility for your life, and refrain from playing the ‘Victim’. You recognize that only you can change your life-circumstances.  If you’re tired of the same old story, you are willing to turn some pages!
  • You are accountable for your actions. When you make mistakes, you own them, apologize and learn from them. You can admit that: you lied, you were inconsiderate, you were dismissive, you lashed out in anger, etc.   Then, you do your best to make amends and avoid repeating your mistake.
  • You refuse to compare yourself with others. You don’t need to criticize others to feel better about yourself. You don’t feel jealous when others shine.  Instead, you acknowledge and appreciate your own unique skills, talents, knowledge and contribution.
  • You can say NO without feeling guilty! You put aside any false sense of obligation or fear of retribution. Instead, you can easily ask for more information or time to make your decision.  If your answer is ‘no’ you can say so, without the need to defend or apologize for your decision. 
  • You allow others, especially close friends and family, to be responsible for their own happiness. You refuse to accept blame-shifting, guilt-bombing or manipulation.
  • You are in-charge of yourself and your own happiness. You understand your wants, needs and feelings and can communicate them clearly. You know it is your right and responsibility to pursue happiness.
  • You know what your values and goals are, and you make them a priority in your life. You don’t accept guilt for pursuing a fulfilling life for yourself.  It is your birth-right.
  • You have a sense of purpose that motivates you and provides an incentive for growth and development. Personal growth naturally enhance your self-respect and self-esteem.
  • You don’t need others to approve of you to feel OK. You have the ability for ‘emotion regulation’. ‘Emotion regulation’ gives you the ability to listen to others’ criticism without internalizing or over-reacting to it. 
  • You trust yourself to make decisions that are in your best interest. You combine your knowledge, intuition, and insight when discerning a course of action. When/if you fail or make a mistake, you turn it into a life lesson and continue to move forward.

Healing Hands offers two Certification Programs and more than 80 Massage and Holistic Health courses.  Considered a trail-blazer in education of the Holistic Healing Arts, Healing Hands boasts three SoCal locations offers classes year-round during the day, evenings and on weekends. Learn more online at www.HealingHandsSchool.com or call us at (949) 305-2722 in Laguna Hills, (858) 505-1100 in San Diego, or (760) 746-9364 in Escondido.  

Holistic Massage School Shares Foods That Fight Inflammation

Our bodies create inflammation as a defense mechanism against harmful stimuli. It is how the immune system removes the stimuli and begins the healing process.

Acute Inflammation

Acute inflammation comes on rapidly, becomes severe in a short time and may last for a several days. Often the result of trauma, microbial invasion, or toxic compounds.

Chronic Inflammation

Chronic inflammation is inflammation that has continued for several months or more. Usually the effects vary with the severity of the trauma and the body’s ability to repair the damage.

Symptoms

Inflammation causes noticeable symptoms, such as pain, redness and swelling.  Other symptoms are subtle, such as fatigue, fever, pain and digestive disorders.

Suggested Anti-inflammatory Foods for Optimal Holistic Nutrition

Fish

Fruit

·       Salmon

·       Blueberries

·       Atlantic Mackerel

·       Cherries

·       Lake Trout

·       Apple (peels)

·       Herring

·       Grapes

·       Sardines

·       Avocados

·       Anchovy

·       Papayas

·       Sablefish / Black Cod

·       Strawberries

·       Albacore Tuna

·       Blackberries

 

·       Oranges

Vegetables

·       Grapefruits

.       Beetroot

 

.       Soybeans

Nuts/Seeds

.       Kale

·       Walnuts

.       Spinach

·       Almonds

.       Broccoli

·       Pumpkin Seeds

.       Brussel Sprouts

·       Hemp Seeds

.       Collard Greens

·       Flaxseeds

.       Swiss Chard

·       Chia Seeds

.       Green Leafy Lettuces

 

 

Oils

Whole Grains

·       Olive oil

·       Oatmeal

·       Avocado oil

·       Brown or Wild Rice

·       Walnut oil

·       Whole Grain Cereals

·       Safflower oil

 

Would YOU like to learn more about holistic health and natural remedies to reduce Inflammation? If so, Healing Hands School of Holistic Health can help.  Boasting more than 80 Massage and Holistic Health courses, we are SoCal’s leader in education in the Holistic Healing Arts.  Learn more online at www.HealingHandsSschool.com or call us at (949) 305-2722 /Laguna Hills, or (760) 746-9364 / Escondido or (858) 505-1100 in San Diego. “touching Lives Touching Hearts, Since 1992”

 

 

Holistic Massage School Discusses Self-empowerment in Romantic Relationships

 Self-empowerment & Romantic Relationships

If you’re like most men and women, you may sometimes have difficulty standing up for your needs in a romantic relationship. Often socialized to prioritize others before themselves, women are especially vulnerable to this behavior.  Learning to assert oneself and speak up for your needs, rights and boundaries in a romantic relationship, as in Life, is what self-empowerment is all about. Discerning what your rights are may be challenging, especially if you lacked healthy relationship models growing up.  Below is a list of ‘Partner Rights’ contributed by the Faculty at Healing Hands School of Holistic Health. 

 

  • I have a right to be treated fairly and respectfully by my partner. I will not tolerate being raged at, intimidated, bullied, coerced, belittled, hit or manipulated.  Any of the aforementioned behaviors are a violation of my boundaries and reason to end the relationship.
  • I have a right to honesty from my partner. While all of us tell little white lies occasionally, being lied to repeatedly erodes trust, which is essential to solid romantic relationships. 
  • I have a right to always say what I need, want or desire and to have my partner respectfully listen and consider how best to support me. In healthy relationships both partners want the other to be happy and fulfilled, so the supportive attitude and actions come naturally.

    Healthy, mutual, romantic relationships boost your immune system, health and well-being.

 

  • I have a right to take time for myself and/or to pursue personal interests, activities with friends and family outside of my romantic relationship. Guilt trips, manipulation or unkind comments will be considered violations of my personal boundaries.
  • I have a right to expect reciprocity from my partner. It is not okay for my partner to expect my comfort, affection, support, and validation without being willing to offer the same in turn.  The healthiest relationships enjoy a balance in the give and take, so each partner feels valued and significant.
  • I have a right to express my feelings and emotions to my partner. I also have the right to be listened to with compassion, empathy and understanding.  If I find that my partner lacks empathy and/or compassion, I have a right to end the relationship and walk away.

    Harboring anger, resentment, guilt, shame, judgement and hurt, as often happens in dysfunctional relationships, can leads to chronic stress a huge risk-factor for illness.

 

  • I have a right to be involved in any decisions that involve me. Decisions about life-style changes should be discussed, allowing both partners to share their perspectives and concerns.  Healthy relationships seek win/win scenarios, so both partners are satisfied with the outcome.

How many additional rights can you think of? 

With classrooms in Kearny Mesa, Escondido, and Laguna Hills Healing Hands School of Holistic Health offers two Certification Programs and over 80 Massage and Holistic Health courses. To learn more, go online to www.HealingHandsSchool.com or call us at (949) 305-2722 in Laguna Hills, (760) 746-9364 in Escondido, or (858) 505-1100 in Kearny Mesa.

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